One of the lessons that being single has taught me is the importance of self-love. When you go a while without being romantically involved with someone, you have no choice but to focus on yourself and on how you can grow while you wait for the right person to come along.
You’re probably sighing deeply from the title because you’re either a sceptic when it comes to love and/ or the Law of Attraction and you’ve already emotionally prepared yourself for another lonely Valentine’s Day, or you’re simply curious and want to give this a shot, or find out if this is click bait because maybe it turns out, when you get to the end of this post, that I’ll be sitting on my couch this year, once again, snuggled up with my mom while we watch some of her favourite TV shows like it’s another ordinary night, only this time, I bought loads of chocolate.
IT’S THE MONTH OF LOVE!
For a lot of people, February is just a drag because it means that the shops are stocking up on Valentine’s day things to sell to you and you’re reminded quite bluntly that you’re the single friend while everyone has plans for February 14th and all you have, for yet another year, is your TV and a box of tissues (you could even blame my fellow Scorpios for this because apparently we created this lovely day to scam everyone into conceiving more Scorpios. I love this idea better). I really want to say that I feel your pain and that we can all virtually hold hands around an imaginary fire and sing some anti-love songs but, firstly, I’m here with a lot of self-love posts lined up for you and secondly, I’m manifesting a Valentine’s day date so I can’t cry with you this year. Sorry.
Towards the end of last year, I’d tweeted about posting daily about the little things that made me smile. I feel that most times, we’re all so caught up in our daily schedules and have our faces glued to a screen so often that we hardly (almost never) stop to appreciate the little things—the cooling rains after a scorching hot day, the water that quenched your thirst, the food you had today, the bed you slept in, your pet, a pretty bird that sat outside your window recently, art… add to your daily stress, the news and how packed with negativity that is.
I’ve been manifesting attracting my soul mate for almost an entire year now and it’s been fun, games, hard work and sometimes actual tears. I’d scripted about this man and made a whole list of qualities which I thought would complement mine if he had them and, let me tell you, it hasn’t been an easy journey but I wouldn’t trade the experience for anything.
October ended on a pretty stressful note for me as I was wrapping up my exams and assignments. In that week, I may have forgotten to take care of myself by giving myself a moment to breathe but, now that I’m finally free, here is the last set of self-love questions and answers which I’ve finally gotten to share with you.
I’ve always been one to believe that there is a time and place for everything. I lived by this saying that went “what’s for you shall not miss you” and while it’s proven to be true for me, I’ve also learned to manipulate the saying by often manifesting things that I otherwise would have never believed I was deserving of.
This month’s letter was inspired by the aspect of it being the month of a new season’s beginning. Whether you’re entering the Fall/ Autumn season or, like me, going from the chill to the beautiful season of Spring, you’re experiencing a change. In that light, I’d thought it would be the perfect time to launch a new project about my personal growth.